Leading By Example

Because it's all I can do.

bitchcraftandwiggatry:

The need for these fictional black women to exist and not be labeled as mean or unfeeling just because of their show of strength, assertiveness in their position of power, and their ability to see things objectively when the vision of everyone else around them is clouded by feelings is absolutely necessary.

When their fandoms attack and dehumanize them, making them out to be a bunch of cold-hearted bitches, it angers me. It angers me because they are examples of black women here in the real world whose character is targeted for fighting to be taken seriously in their careers, demanding to be equally respected as their counterparts, and not apologizing for succeeding when the odds were never in their favor.

The names are fictitious, their stories aren’t.

Ranting about Money (and why significant others who make you pay for everything are shitty and should be avoided)

I have always believed that one should love people more than things, and always love people more than money. 

I still believe this, but I refuse to let a person dictate my life to the extent that I neglect my work (both paid work, volunteer work, my hobbies, and school). As a man I feel deeply conflicted by this because, let’s face it, workaholic men are overvalued in this society. Men are supposed to work out of the home, while women do the “emotional work” of the home. That’s the old-school separate spheres idea of gender, but more than that, I’m opposed to capitalism. I love to work hard and accomplish things, but this is a poisonous system. However, everyone has to compromise to survive….

But that is not the point of this post. The point of this rant is about dating, and why it is not a good idea to date people who expect you to pay for everything. This requires a history lesson …

I dated men in the past (hehe, I still would now), and there were times where I either took time off work to see them, or even quit my job to spend more time with them. My high school boyfriend was the worst. I had a job the summer before we both went off to college, and because of this, he expected me to pay for both of our meals every time we went out to eat (which was all he wanted to do, interestingly enough). I asked him over and over again why he wouldn’t get a job, seeing as he was perfectly able to, and his answer was, “I don’t want to get a summer job until after I start college.” When I asked him why he never wanted to pay for dinner—you know, every once in awhile—he said, “Oh, I’m saving my money for college.”

He said this as if all the work I did and all the money I made was of no consequence. My money wasn’t supposed to be spent on books for school or rent or whatever—it was for him to have a good time. 

That kind of attitude really pissed me off, but it still took me another relationship to figure out that you shouldn’t fucking date people who want to use up your money and give nothing in return. That sounds really shitty, but you basically end up being someone’s parent. These two men in particular had all the privileges in the world—white, cis, straight, able-bodied, mentally able, middle class—so there was absolutely no reason why either of them should have used me as a means of free food, or gas money. 

I guess I’m trying to tell you that you really, really should prioritize yourself and not quit your job because your SO/crush/sweetie wants you to quit, or because you feel you “should” because you want more time with them, and these are my reasons for it. Chances are, that person won’t be around much longer and you’ll be stuck with heartbreak and an empty wallet. I recovered, obviously, but I’d never do any of that same old shit for anyone ever again.

rasdivine:

Brazilian who turned 126 years old last week could be oldest living person
A Brazilian man whose parents were African slaves could be the oldest living person ever documented after receiving a birth certificate showing he turned 126 last week, it was reported on Tuesday.
Jose Aguinelo dos Santos was born on July 7 1888, just two months after slavery was abolished in Brazil - the last country in the Western Hemisphere to outlaw the trade.
Yet the batchelor, who never married or had children, still walks without a stick, eats four meals a day and has no health problems - despite smoking a packet of cigarettes a day for the last 50 years.
Jose - known simply as Ze - was apparently 26 when the First World War broke out, and already a pensioner at 65 when Queen Elizabeth II ascended to the British throne.
If the birth certificate is genuine, he would have been 52 when Brazil football legend Pele was born - and 62 when Brazil first hosted the World Cup, in 1950. One of five children, Jose was born in a slave compound in the town of Pedra Branca in the state of Ceara, northeast Brazil.
He was among hundreds of slave families who continued to live there, even after being granted their freedom.
He later travelled south to the state of Sao Paulo, where he spent most of his life working on a coffee plantation in the town of Bauru.
Now a resident of an old people’s home in the same town, Jose likes to tell jokes and sing, hates having a bath, and never misses his daily plate of rice and beans.
And he told Brazil’s G1 website there is no secret to living a long life: “The truth is that you just keep getting older. You take each stage at a time.
"If I got to this age it’s because I’ve lived a lot, that’s all."
Mariana Silva, psychologist at the Vila Vicentina home, said Jose has no health problems and is so lucid he still amuses other residents by cracking one-liners.
She said: “He’s one of our most with-it residents.
"He doesn’t have high cholesterol, diabetes or high blood pressure. The only medicine he takes are vitamins and a tablet to give him an appetite, which you can lose with old age.
"When he’s on his own he likes to sing. None of us know the songs he sings. They’re from a time no-one else remembers.
"He doesn’t like to take a bath every day and it’s sometimes impossible to get him to the shower. When he puts his foot down, that’s it. No-one can get him in there."
Jose, who arrived at the home in 2001, received his birth certificate last month after living his entire life without any documents.
A team of experts arrived on his birth date after researching his past and interviewing him about his earliest memories, during which he was able to describe the slave compound perfectly.
The old people’s home now hopes to provide conclusive evidence that he is the world’s oldest man through ‘Carbon-14’ dating.
Jose Roberto Pires, the president of the retirement home, said they are determined to do the test even though it costs around £13,000.
But he added: “We are trying to find a way to do it without having to pay. This is very important. We believe the world’s oldest ever person is living here with us, and this is the only way we can really prove it.”

rasdivine:

Brazilian who turned 126 years old last week could be oldest living person

A Brazilian man whose parents were African slaves could be the oldest living person ever documented after receiving a birth certificate showing he turned 126 last week, it was reported on Tuesday.

Jose Aguinelo dos Santos was born on July 7 1888, just two months after slavery was abolished in Brazil - the last country in the Western Hemisphere to outlaw the trade.

Yet the batchelor, who never married or had children, still walks without a stick, eats four meals a day and has no health problems - despite smoking a packet of cigarettes a day for the last 50 years.

Jose - known simply as Ze - was apparently 26 when the First World War broke out, and already a pensioner at 65 when Queen Elizabeth II ascended to the British throne.

If the birth certificate is genuine, he would have been 52 when Brazil football legend Pele was born - and 62 when Brazil first hosted the World Cup, in 1950. One of five children, Jose was born in a slave compound in the town of Pedra Branca in the state of Ceara, northeast Brazil.

He was among hundreds of slave families who continued to live there, even after being granted their freedom.

He later travelled south to the state of Sao Paulo, where he spent most of his life working on a coffee plantation in the town of Bauru.

Now a resident of an old people’s home in the same town, Jose likes to tell jokes and sing, hates having a bath, and never misses his daily plate of rice and beans.

And he told Brazil’s G1 website there is no secret to living a long life: “The truth is that you just keep getting older. You take each stage at a time.

"If I got to this age it’s because I’ve lived a lot, that’s all."

Mariana Silva, psychologist at the Vila Vicentina home, said Jose has no health problems and is so lucid he still amuses other residents by cracking one-liners.

She said: “He’s one of our most with-it residents.

"He doesn’t have high cholesterol, diabetes or high blood pressure. The only medicine he takes are vitamins and a tablet to give him an appetite, which you can lose with old age.

"When he’s on his own he likes to sing. None of us know the songs he sings. They’re from a time no-one else remembers.

"He doesn’t like to take a bath every day and it’s sometimes impossible to get him to the shower. When he puts his foot down, that’s it. No-one can get him in there."

Jose, who arrived at the home in 2001, received his birth certificate last month after living his entire life without any documents.

A team of experts arrived on his birth date after researching his past and interviewing him about his earliest memories, during which he was able to describe the slave compound perfectly.

The old people’s home now hopes to provide conclusive evidence that he is the world’s oldest man through ‘Carbon-14’ dating.

Jose Roberto Pires, the president of the retirement home, said they are determined to do the test even though it costs around £13,000.

But he added: “We are trying to find a way to do it without having to pay. This is very important. We believe the world’s oldest ever person is living here with us, and this is the only way we can really prove it.”

jazzy-w:

Members of the Asian American community at UC Davis are taking a stand in solidarity with the people of Ferguson and their continued struggle for survival in the face of police brutality. All black lives matter.

jazzy-w:

Members of the Asian American community at UC Davis are taking a stand in solidarity with the people of Ferguson and their continued struggle for survival in the face of police brutality. All black lives matter.

“In a study of injuries in 90 patients injured by rubber bullets, one died, 17 suffered permanent disabilities or deformities and 41 required hospital treatment after being fired upon with rubber bullets.”

– So when the cops claim this is a humane, legitimate crowd control tactic, they’re straight up lying to your face. Don’t let them bullshit you. (x)